Struggling with running around all over Facebook and your social media posting up content.
After a hard week when you’re reaching empty what do you do to fill up your emotional tank?
On Sunday morning I turned on the TV to catch the morning news and the Sunday Service was on. I never watch Sunday service shows but what the pastor was saying was so interesting. He asked this question. What fills your emotional tank? I loved this and it resonated with me big time.
The work life balance topic is very interesting to me. I have written previously on the life balance triangle. As mum’s it’s very easy for the triangle to get out of balance or the emotional tank to get empty and not be refilled. As parents we are giver’s and carers and it’s easy to go weeks without taking time for yourself. The tank gets empty.
So what does refilling your emotional tank mean? Refilling the emotional tank is doing things that make you feel good. Not making others feel good by what you have done for them. An activity that fills you up. It refreshes and revitalises you. What are those things that make you feel awesome afterwards? Is it swimming? Running? Going for a lovely lunch? A simple walk at the river or beach? baking? Yoga? Film making? Cooking? Knitting? Crafts? The list is endless but it needs to be specific to you and your tank. Something that you can do that makes you fill alive, wonderful, happy and refreshed.
I have let go some of the things that fill my emotionally tank over the last few years with having babies and being busy. One of my New Year resolutions this year is to go to the beach once a week by myself. I want to get back into swimming and surfing at the beach. I think my former glory days of tackling gnarly waves are long gone but even if I am just paddling out and sitting on my board it makes me feel amazing. The water has and always will give me a renewed sense of self, vision and relaxation like nothing can. It’s like the very ion’s from the water transmit into my body through osmosis and recharge my cells. I love the water, being near it, on it and in it. This is why this is a priority for me and this is what refills my emotional tank.
So what can you do? What fills your emotional tank? Can you put a priority to fill your tank one day a week?
One of my New Year resolutions is to try and use a weekly planner for business. I love a good list, plans and I am really good with my diary. Got to put it in the diary or I forget and it doesn’t exist. I mean what is that after children you have a brain like a sieve. Is it the lack of sleep that your short term memory never recovers from?? Now that the school year is starting and we are getting back to routines and work I am determined to systematize my week. I am blocking it out in at weekly planner.
Here’s the pdf of the weekly planner I made to block out time. I am putting it on an A5 and sticking it on my desk. This way each week I know what I am doing on certain days. I have also put in the priority of my exercise which is also an important goal I am getting back to this year. Planners need to be customised and work for you. Last year I did a few of these up and blocked out time after the kids went to bed. Bong Bong wrong for me. By the time I had done the bath, dinner and bed. I was in my pj’s on the lounge having a cup of tea and simply did not have the energy to blog, do the internet etc. I just needed to wind down and watch MKR or some mind numbing reality show. I had the right idea of blocking it out but was the wrong time slots.
This year I have popped in my exercise and a few jobs on each day. I hope to achieve these when my toddler is sleeping or happily playing. Some of the area’s I am blocking out on my planner are blogging, social media scheduling, lead generation and follow up, sponsorship applications, admin day, filming and course creation. I think these are the big ones. I keep thinking of things but don’t want to overload myself as there needs to be time for appointments, networking, friends and of course housework (arrrghh).
My questions to you are what are you blocking out. Do you have a weekly planner? What time do you block out? What do you put in your weekly planner? Here’s to blocking it out in a weekly planner hopefully it does the trick this year.
Hope you and your kids had a great start to the first day of school yesterday.
Once Christmas is over it’s full steam ahead for the New Year and decluttering. I have been going full on with decluttering. Here are my 5 ways to declutter for the New Year. They work everytime and are great when you are feeling bogged down and need a good re-fresh to clean your house and mind. I love sorting the house out to sort my head out. Actually I am lying LOL. I don’t love it and if I could afford a housekeeper I would. But I do love when you have gotten on top of the clutter how you feel with being focused.
5 Ways to Declutter for the New Year
Roll in the green wheelie bin.
This is an all time favourite of mine. Don’t take stuff out to the wheelie bin. Just roll the whole bin into your house, plock it in the of the room and start chucking out the clutter. If you have never done this it’s really empowering. Just get rid of it.
Move your furniture around.
I did this two days ago. Completely turned my lounge/dining room around. Awesome!! It looks fantastic and works much better for the space I have. With moving everything around you have to take out stuff and once I have moved around the room last thing I want to do is put all the stuff back in.
Donate to charity or women refuge.
When you roll your wheelie bin in, have a box for charity. But take note, don’t give broken, too old, stained or if you wouldn’t wear it yourself (ie has gone into balls on the jumper) bin it. It surprises me that people give old stuff and stained stuff when they move on it on to charity or pass it to a friend. Have a good look at it, be critical of what you are passing on or passing down to a friend. I once had a lady who I didn’t even know, drop of a bag of clothes at my front door. A friend had told her I had a baby and she gave me all her crap. I was annoyed for a few reason, not only did I not give my permission for my address to be given out but the stuff was old. I threw it straight in the bin. Plus she didn’t even knock on my door she dropped and ran. My friend text me later to tell me her friend had dropped off clothes and was too embarrassed to knock on the door (I didn’t even respond to the text either). Too right I would of been embarrassed to. Just because I am a single Mum does mean I am a rubbish bin. Please only pass on the good stuff, then rest belongs in the wheelie bin in the middle of the room (Sorry rant over and out).
If you are going to donate to the women refuge ring them before you go to see they need anything. I have rung before and they were not taking anything. It will save you a trip.
Get it on Gumtree.
Gumtree is awesome. When I get on a roll, if it’s not nailed down I will sell it. You make a little bit of cash and someone else gets bargain. Pitfalls of Gumtree is that someone can say they are coming over and don’t turn up. Grrr.
Pay it Forward.
How great is the Pay it Forward page. I have seen some amazing things give away. There is one bloke who collects old bikes, does them up and pays it forward. The other day I saw he has done over 600. What a champion. Pay it Forward 🙂
If you are still on holidays I imagine you are probably doing all of these at the moment. It’s nice to have a bit of extra time to get stuck in to it all before school, work and busy sports times start.
These are my top 5 ways to declutter for the New Year. What are yours?
If you don’t have a review section on your business page it very easy to do. Here’s how to add reviews to your business page.
Watch the video or follow the step by step guide below.
- Go to your about section on your business page.
- Go to catogories and choose local business in the drop down box.
- In the second drop down box choose your industry and save.
- Next go to your address and add your address. Tick the map box. Although I didn’t have a map box this still worked for me. Save this.
- Finished your customers can add reviews.
Good reviews are great and can help you get the edge on your competitor. Facebook favours more reviews as you being trustworthy. Ask your customers for reviews.
Hope this helps you to add reviews to your business page.
Have a wonderful weekend.
Last night I had the most amazing conversation with a very dear friend of mine, Donna Hanks who has in the last two weeks published her first book on Amazon (both ebook and paperback). Her book I Love You has taken three years to publish. We spoke about following your passion and doing what you want to do. Donna didn’t know that I had a couple of books in the pipeline and was also ready to publish when she did. We screamed with laughter about how much we loved doing the books and only making $3 to pay for part of the champagne to celebrate. When she comes to Perth next we are having an Amazon party to celebrate these big milestones. Congratulations Donna so very proud of your achievement and I love your book.
Then this morning on ABC 24 hours news I saw the most inspiring story about a guy called Adrian Bennett. Adrian Bennett runs the the Mad Max 2 Museum in Silverton NSW. Now you might be thinking what is so inspiring about that. Here’s the story about Follow your passion Mad Max.
Adrian Bennett saw the Mad Max movie in England in 1981 and loved it. Adrian said “If you had told me 34 years ago that I’d be living in outback Australia running a Mad Max Museum I would’ve laughed” You’d think he was really mad if he had actually said that 34 years ago. Adrian had an obsession for all things Mad Max but didn’t really start collecting for the Museum until he got to Australia. In 2009 his wife finally agreed to move to Silverton Australia and in 2010 he opened the Mad Max 2 Museum.
Silverton is a small town with a population of 35, near Broken Hill and 1200km west of Sydney. Silverton is where they originally filmed the first Mad Max. Silverton is an Australian icon, so many films have been filmed here such as Pricillia Queen of the Desert, Dirty Deeds, Mission Impossible 2 and many more. Silverton gets over 10 000 visitors per year passing through.
When Adrian got to Silverton he said “I knew I was meant to be here”. I love this. Adrian set up his Museum and the journey has not been with out challenges. One of the biggest challenges was being in an outback town that hits temperatures of 53 degrees in the summer. Now that is tough going for anyone especially for someone from England to get used to it.
What struck me about Adrian story is a couple of things. His passion was Mad Max and he followed his passion all the way to Australia. To leave everything you know to move country is huge and not only to move to another country but a very small town in the middle of the outback. Then when you get there you knew with all your heart that you were suppose to be there. This blows me away. Adrian’s Facebook page now has over 12000 likes, brilliant hey. Congratulations Adrian.
You can join Adrian on his Facebook Page, ring him on 08 80886128 or Email: email@example.com
A big thank you for Adrian for letting me use his awesome pictures from his Facebook page.
The lesson for me from this inspiring story is DO IT and it doesn’t matter what that it is. Start doing it, start putting it together, the conditions don’t have to be right, it doesn’t have to be perfect you just need to start it. This week I have always wanted to publish books. I did that this week. I didn’t have any money to do it so I self published for free on Amazon. What a great learning curve and now I feel more confident to publish my other books which I wrote back in 2012.
On Friday I published my first episode of Mum-tales on my You-Tube channel. This was far from perfect as I clicked the wrong button on editing and it blurred out my face. I didn’t even know I had done this until the next day. But a few people had still watched and gave positive feedback on my blurry face. Funny. Thank you. So Ooopps. I had to fix and re-publish. What I do is not perfect but I am loving what I am doing. I believe in all my heart this is what I am suppose to be doing. I am following my passions, it may be a slow road but I feel happy with it.
What is your passion? Are you doing it? What is stopping you?
All I can say is follow your passion Mad Max.
Before I had children I had developed quite a cool style. I used to wear funky little scarfs around my neck (1950’s style), gorgeous dresses and funky tops. I loved shopping, hand bags and shoes. I mean who doesn’t love shoes and hand bags. I had time to shop, disposable income to spend, I had places to go out with my lovely handbags and took them out all the time. Oh how it seems a lifetime ago.
Fast forward to life after two children. Since having children and not having time to shop, my wardrobe has gone to mummy land wardrobe blues. My meaning of mummy land wardrobe blues is all the high heels have long gone, the clothes are drab, the hand bags have gotten larger so I can fit water bottles in it (that leak everywhere), nappies, food, a change of clothes and finally I will squeeze in my purse and phone for myself. Seriously look at the difference in these two bags. One I use today and the other in my single night clubbing days. Ha ha what a riot. I just can’t get rid of my little bag that I used to take out dancing, that fit cutely around my wrist while I drank champagne.
Ok ok enough about the handbags and back to the clothes. I have become a grab and run mum with my clothes, if I have time I will get to the change room, if I don’t I’ll put it over the top of my clothes and see if it’s not to big. My shops (not of choice but of ease) have become Kmart and Target, I really need to get to Karrinup more rather than pop in to Kmart and Target before or after my food shop. You can image what my wardrobe looks like. I have t-shirts, jeans, denium shirts and a few more t-shirts thrown in for good measure. I am lucky that I do have lots of bottoms, skirts, pants etc I find them easy to buy and know what’s a good fit and looks good. I must confess I have a top problem. I find it hard to buy tops these days. I end up with t-shirt after t-shirt. Jumpers don’t even get me started. Arrrghhhh!!
A couple of months ago I did a massive cull and got rid of all the old, stuff that doesn’t fit (I did keep some I will fit back into again) and the ugly. But I do struggle with getting some nice clothes in my wardrobe and then I feel desperate I have nothing to wear. This is when disaster hits. I go to the shops all rushed and I do a grab and run. The last grab and run I did ended up with the worse granny top in the world…. I was gutted. I was just confused, I don’t want to be looking like a granny but I don’t want to be mutton dressed as lamb. Then strangely a couple of days after getting the granny top and feeling very annoyed at myself for buying it I got a message from Kirsty Noakes from Shop & Style Specialist, an amazing stylist who rang and offered me a styling profile. Kirsty is bringing me back from mummy land wardrobe blues.
Kirsty runs Shop & Style Specialist and won Belmont Small Business Award for 2015 for Best Home Based Business. A massive congratulations to Kirsty. She is amazing. Kirsty is a personal stylist and what an fantastic job that would be. Kirsty helps her clients’ look and feel better in their personal lives. Shop & Style Specialists offers the expert provision of professional styling services in the everyday world. Kirsty does all of this with two gorgeous baby twins.
Kirsty was so spot on with me it was scary, I think she is psychic. I had to do a little quiz before Kirsty came over and I loved doing that, I had to pick all my favourite clothes and put in my measurements. Kirsty did a full style profile on me and gave me a gorgeous folder and complete style profile. This has everything in it, my colours, what to wear, my body shape, picture for the visual person in me and more. It’s so excellent I would of never believed how awesome these fours pages are.
My style profile is invaluable. I came out as a casual/creative. I like to be comfortable but do like a bit of flair. Kirsty told me what I should be looking out for when I am shopping and what suits me. Now when I go shopping I have been looking at clothes a bit differently, but I’m still struggling with not buying more t-shirts and I must confess I have bought a couple more t-shirts since my profile was done. Opps old bad habits are hard to beat sometimes.
Kirsty cleaned out my wardrobe and let me give you the tip I was very nervous about this. Seriously look at these photos I had a hammer and an electric screwdriver living in it. Let me tell you they don’t look very stylish on me.
Here’s my before picture with granny top.
After with all my clothes but put together differently.
What can I say but thank you Kirsty, you have given me hope that I can be a stylish and funky again. My promise to myself for 2016 is to get to Karrinup for a few more shopping trip without the kids. To improve on my top buying and try on lots of different tops and see what looks good. I am not going to wear “lounge wear” to the local shops LOL. I so love that term – “Lounge Wear” and it actually makes me think differently about my clothes when I put them on in the morning.
I would highly recommend Kirsty if you are feeling confused about what’s going on with your clothes, if you have fallen into the black pit rut with no colour, not sure what suits your body type and are in the mummy land wardrobe blues. Ring Kirsty. Her style profile has been invaluable.
Contact Kirsty on:
Mobile: 0421 661 393
Thank you to our gorgeous Mumpreneur Kirsty for one of the best appointments I have had.
So what about you? Do you feel your wardrobe needs a revamp? Have you got tools or other non-clothes items living in your wardrobe that need to go?
Welcome to the MUMPRENEURS WA website. It’s here!!
Welcome to the Mumpreneurs WA website. Soo thrilled and excited to finally have the website up and running. Today we are making a start and Mumpreneurs Business Directory is here!!!
I am so excited to present the Business Directory for you. This is will be place you can register your business for free if you are a Mumpreneur both on our Facebook Group and get our Newsletter (subscribe for free on the left side of the website plus get a free 2016 Business Planner). My goal is to offer a place to advertise your business, or if you need a product or service you can support Mumpreneur Businesses and not get lost on the Facebook page. I know a few times I have wanted to find a business I saw and then couldn’t find it again. Don’t worry if there are multi businesses that are the same, remember people pick you for different reason – they have met you, they like your name (true heard this many times), or you live close to them. If there is a major category that you think is missing please message me with the category idea. Click here and put your business in our directory.
The website is not complete and all perfect and shiny but then again neither am I. All that will all come. I am currently looking at working with Edith Cowan University on the Vocational Placement Program in 2016. If I get picked, it won’t happen till at least March next year. But for now I have learnt a few skills blogging and can get up the basics and get going. I love pottering along with blogging and working on Worpress it’s fun even if it can be frustrating at times.
I truly believe you can’t wait for the perfect condition to get an idea or start the road to your goals. If I did wait around for the right conditions in my life I wouldn’t have achieved most on my life goals. I am more a big picture person than a small details person and tend to just try and go for it and worry about the smaller details later.
Here’s to Making a Start and Mumpreneurs Business Directory. I hope you like our Business Directory and website with more wonderful and exciting things to come in 2016 for you. Pop your business in the business directory.
What do you think? Do you like it? Leave a comment and say hello.
Have an awesome day.